In this month’s coaching blog, Jacki Bogolia shares how regular practice and critique are essential to becoming the best coach she can be.
JACKI BOGOLIA
First UMC of Elmhurst, Illinois
“Tell me about yourself. What are your greatest strengths? What is your greatest weakness?”
Most of us are familiar with these standard interview questions and often struggle to answer them. For example, how do I talk about my weaknesses without sabotaging my chances for the job?
For many, our greatest weakness is a strength taken either too far or not far enough. Occasionally, in the middle of a coaching session, when I’m listening and observing with full attention, my greatest coaching weakness sneaks out and urgently insists that I share my amazing wisdom and experience with the client. They obviously need my “help” so much I can hardly resist graciously telling them what they should or should not do. Yikes!
Last year, I joined a coaching practice circle. We meet on Zoom almost every Monday at 10 am Central / 11 am Eastern. We rotate roles, coaching, being coached, and sharing feedback. It’s been a valuable investment of time. In addition to helping me keep my persistent internal advisor off center stage, my coaching skill awareness has increased, and I enjoy the personal connection with others who share my passion for coaching.
This year, I’ve experienced some big life events, including retiring after 18 years in a full-time church staff position, training a replacement, our daughter’s wedding in Croatia, and months-long periods living alone during my husband’s out-of-state work assignments.
Because of my changing roles and responsibilities, I decided to put my coaching practice on hold for several weeks. During the pause, I gradually became aware that my inner advisor was again sneaking out during important conversations, especially with my adult children, who just needed Mom to listen. And summarize. And ask powerful questions. And inquire about next steps.
At first, my new non-coaching conversation style surprised and confused me. Why was I suddenly taking over the conversations? I didn’t used to do that!
Here’s my takeaway: Regular practice and critique are essential to maintain the professional level of coaching I want to offer, and my clients expect and deserve this.
I’m grateful to be back in my coaching practice circle again. You are invited to join us anytime. Email Rev. Ron Brooks at [email protected], and he will be sure the Zoom link gets sent to you.
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Jacki Bogolia is a retired Community and Family Ministry Director living in Elmhurst, Illinois. She is a Michigan Conference coach who provides services via Zoom.
Last Updated on November 13, 2024